I am finding that the Facebook "Friend" request can be a very tricky road to navigate when dating. On the one hand, you can find out a LOT about a person by reading what is posted on their wall. I will admit that I decided not to go out with someone because they "liked" politicians and/or groups with a conservative agenda. I posted earlier that I also decided not to go out with someone who was "Friends" with an unusual amount of half-naked women living in various parts of the world. On the other hand, it can open way too many cans of worms that you really don't want to handle....
I had emailed with someone (but not met in person yet) from whom I accepted a "Friend" request. He seemed relatively drama-free (an important factor when accepting requests) so it seemed harmless enough. On first glance, his page seemed fine....postings on family, food, or activities. After a while though, I began to notice that he would often have rather whiny posts....about not having someone to do something with....eating alone....not having a Valentine. Granted, I'm sure those were his legitimate heartfelt feelings towards his situation but perhaps that may be a reflection on why he is single? Just speculating.....
Yes, I would LOVE to be in a blissfully joyous relationship with someone wonderful, but do I feel particularly self-pitying that I am not? Eh...not really. In fact, the only thing so far that has really been a challenge for me as a single person is going on a vacation somewhere. I'm not afraid to travel alone but I do have the WORST sense of direction....it's so bad that I do believe it qualifies as an actual disability. Otherwise I definitely don't feel sorry for myself and my circumstance, and for the most part, find quite a bit of amusement at the situations that I sometimes find myself in.
So back to Whiny Guy....we had been emailing a bit but given my newfound information, I was quickly losing interest in continuing and/or actually meeting. At that point Whiny Guy sent an email giving me an ultimatum of either meeting up or perhaps ceasing all communications. Okay....so that was done.........at least I thought so. SURPRISE....a few weeks later he was back with another email. I think he might have missed that class on how to properly issue and follow through on an ultimatum. I also think that ultimatums carry much more weight when the parties have a vested interest in the future....not so much when you don't really know the person, have never actually met, and are still getting a feel for the type of person they are. Anyway, I decided not to respond because I was now COMPLETELY sure that I did not want to meet. Several emails later (none responded to) I received a second ultimatum and this time he "Unfriended" me. Wow.....so I'm thinking imagine if you were actually involved with this guy??
A male friend of mine said that he tries at all costs to avoid accepting any "Friend" requests from any woman that he's dating. It only makes for unnecessary drama...especially if you're simply dating and not in a committed relationship. I can definitely see his point. But then how do you gracefully NOT accept a request?
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