The dating site has this thing called "winks". I really don't know what purpose they serve. Apparently if you create a profile but are too cheap to pay the membership fee....I mean, opt to not pay the membership fee....you can basically only send those winks. You cannot send messages...or read messages...or really communicate in any other way than by sending a wink.
First off, if you can't or don't have the $30 to spend on the membership fee perhaps you shouldn't be so concerned about dating right now. Just saying. I've read a number of profiles that state "I'm not a paying member at the moment..." ummmmm okay. So then they try to leave you a way to get in contact with them in encrypted cereal box decoder ring fashion to circumvent the website censors. I wonder if anyone actually takes that route?
Secondly, there's the mass winkers. I'll get winks from other states and out of curiosity I'll read the profile just to see how in the world they managed to find me. One day, I actually emailed someone to find out and he said that he was considering moving to Hawaii and sent out winks en masse to see what kind of response he would get.
I met someone once who initially sent the hated wink (which by this point I now ignored because WTF really is this option anyway?!?). He sent an email a couple days later and we eventually met up. I told him how the wink confuses me and he said he sends it out to see if the woman is interested....assuming that if she is she will then respond with an email. So I said....wouldn't it be easier to just send an email right off the bat? Initially, if I received a wink and the person seemed interesting, I would send an email....and then I would never hear back from them again. Was my email THAT bad? Did they lose interest in the period between sending the wink and my email? Did the cat hit the send wink button accidentally? So confusing and hence my dislike of the wink. The Wink Guy that I met said maybe those winkers weren't paying members so they couldn't read my email....in which case, why send the wink in the first place?!?
Maybe the site should create a new option for non-members...select one of the following:
"I'm too cheap to pay for a membership but I'd still like to go out with you."
"I don't know what to write but I'd still like to go out with you."
"I'm hitting on hundreds of women to increase my odds, but I really am especially interested in going out with you."
And really...who actually winks at a stranger in real life in order to meet them?
I don't know about dating site winks but I have been randomly winked at most of my life......... by a variety of men of varying ages, and mostly in public situations. O and one time by a woman which led my thoughts in a whole new direction, previously explored in my early teens. Usually I wink back especially with older men......sometimes prudence causes me to ignore the wink and winker completely.
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