Friday, March 30, 2012
Day Thirty Nine-Medication
A little while back I went out with Mr. Smarty Pants. He was working on his graduate degree in Psychology and from our brief time emailing (I think we only exchanged one or two emails) he seemed like an interesting fellow to meet.
Another friend once introduced me to the idea that you should wonder what it would be like to kiss someone within say the first 15 minutes of meeting them...otherwise it means that you probably don't and won't have physical chemistry. I kinda think he might be on to something. Anyway, needless to say, I wasn't wondering what it would be like to kiss Mr. Smarty Pants within the first 15 minutes however we were having a rather interesting conversation.........until........I started feeling like I was in a lecture class in school. I realized that at some point Mr. SP had gotten up on his soap box and was talking at me on all sorts of subjects that he was an expert on. It wouldn't have been too bad except it went on for quite a while...and then he started on his opinions on various psychiatric issues.
By now I was mulling over exit strategies in my head while nodding in agreement to whatever he was ranting about. His conversation (can you call in conversation when it's completely one-sided?) turned to psychiatric disorders and the importance of pharmaceutical treatment.........and suddenly I blurted out that I have bipolar disorder and have refused medication for years. There was a brief moment of silence (which was nice) and then he looks at me and says "You really should be on medication."
I wasn't sure if that was an insult, suggestion, or his "professional" opinion because I really just threw it out there as my means of exiting study hall. I do have to say that this was the first time (on a first date) that someone told me that I should be medicated....usually it takes them a little longer to come to that conclusion.
No, there was no second date.
Another friend once introduced me to the idea that you should wonder what it would be like to kiss someone within say the first 15 minutes of meeting them...otherwise it means that you probably don't and won't have physical chemistry. I kinda think he might be on to something. Anyway, needless to say, I wasn't wondering what it would be like to kiss Mr. Smarty Pants within the first 15 minutes however we were having a rather interesting conversation.........until........I started feeling like I was in a lecture class in school. I realized that at some point Mr. SP had gotten up on his soap box and was talking at me on all sorts of subjects that he was an expert on. It wouldn't have been too bad except it went on for quite a while...and then he started on his opinions on various psychiatric issues.
By now I was mulling over exit strategies in my head while nodding in agreement to whatever he was ranting about. His conversation (can you call in conversation when it's completely one-sided?) turned to psychiatric disorders and the importance of pharmaceutical treatment.........and suddenly I blurted out that I have bipolar disorder and have refused medication for years. There was a brief moment of silence (which was nice) and then he looks at me and says "You really should be on medication."
I wasn't sure if that was an insult, suggestion, or his "professional" opinion because I really just threw it out there as my means of exiting study hall. I do have to say that this was the first time (on a first date) that someone told me that I should be medicated....usually it takes them a little longer to come to that conclusion.
No, there was no second date.
Thursday, March 29, 2012
Wednesday, March 28, 2012
Day Thirty Eight-Limits
I think I reached mine. I received an email from a 68-year old guy today. 68. That's 24 years older than me and I'm no spring chicken (what the heck IS a spring chicken anyway?). My membership is expiring soon but every time I hit that breaking point and decide to cancel, they give me some ridiculous offer to continue my ridiculous online dating experiences.
Hmmmmm.......maybe I should try to drum up the $1000 finder's fee.....
Hmmmmm.......maybe I should try to drum up the $1000 finder's fee.....
Tuesday, March 27, 2012
Sunday, March 25, 2012
Day Thirty Seven-The Caste System
A while back a friend entertained the idea of introducing me to a friend of his. He showed me a group picture on his Facebook which included the introducee. As soon as I saw the photograph I told him that I couldn't possibly meet this guy, and of course, my friend asked "Why not?". I said, "He's so totally out of my league!"
So that brought up the discussion of the caste system of looks. You know that everyone does it. You see a couple and perhaps the woman is incredibly beautiful and the man not so much, and you think.....oh...he must have money. Or if the reverse is true then she must have money. Or he's gay. Everyone does it even if they won't admit it. How did he/she get that person???
So I ended up asking a friend at work for her opinion on the subject. She gave it some thought and told me the story of her daughter (who is very pretty). Apparently at some point her daughter dated a guy who was equally as physically gifted but it ended up not working out because he (and she) were used to being "the one" in the relationship...and suddenly having two of "the one" just wasn't working out dynamically. I had mentioned to my friend that I'm uncomfortable going out with someone considered traditionally handsome because I am so NOT traditionally pretty, and in my rather un-evolved mental cycle I can't quite get the two to live in harmony. So she suggested that perhaps the traditionally attractive in the world might prefer to be "the one" in the relationship and thus find comfort in being with someone posing less competition to their physical status.
Yes, yes, all very odd and somewhat reminiscent of Paleolithic days and some sort of survival of the fittest (well..in appearance anyway) but it is a fact. Many profiles that I read will state that the guy works out regularly and is in good shape and is thus looking for a woman who is also in good shape (and I really don't think he means her EKG reading or cholesterol levels). Or a guy will state that he looks considerably younger than his chronological age and is thus looking for a woman who looks equally as young (or younger). People wouldn't make those statements if the caste system didn't exist. I appear a certain way so I should be with someone who appears at a reasonably similar status? Of course, a problem occurs when either party does not have a realistic view of their own appearance. Hence the profiles where the fellow is NOT in good shape and/or considerably younger looking but he is still seeking a partner in great shape who looks very young. Or maybe they just fell asleep during the caste system class....
So that brought up the discussion of the caste system of looks. You know that everyone does it. You see a couple and perhaps the woman is incredibly beautiful and the man not so much, and you think.....oh...he must have money. Or if the reverse is true then she must have money. Or he's gay. Everyone does it even if they won't admit it. How did he/she get that person???
So I ended up asking a friend at work for her opinion on the subject. She gave it some thought and told me the story of her daughter (who is very pretty). Apparently at some point her daughter dated a guy who was equally as physically gifted but it ended up not working out because he (and she) were used to being "the one" in the relationship...and suddenly having two of "the one" just wasn't working out dynamically. I had mentioned to my friend that I'm uncomfortable going out with someone considered traditionally handsome because I am so NOT traditionally pretty, and in my rather un-evolved mental cycle I can't quite get the two to live in harmony. So she suggested that perhaps the traditionally attractive in the world might prefer to be "the one" in the relationship and thus find comfort in being with someone posing less competition to their physical status.
Yes, yes, all very odd and somewhat reminiscent of Paleolithic days and some sort of survival of the fittest (well..in appearance anyway) but it is a fact. Many profiles that I read will state that the guy works out regularly and is in good shape and is thus looking for a woman who is also in good shape (and I really don't think he means her EKG reading or cholesterol levels). Or a guy will state that he looks considerably younger than his chronological age and is thus looking for a woman who looks equally as young (or younger). People wouldn't make those statements if the caste system didn't exist. I appear a certain way so I should be with someone who appears at a reasonably similar status? Of course, a problem occurs when either party does not have a realistic view of their own appearance. Hence the profiles where the fellow is NOT in good shape and/or considerably younger looking but he is still seeking a partner in great shape who looks very young. Or maybe they just fell asleep during the caste system class....
Saturday, March 24, 2012
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