There is now a site for daters who want to find out what went wrong (why the other party disappeared, never called back, etc). Do we really need to know?? Granted, there have been a few cases in my lifetime where I was a bit baffled for a little while.....but not enough to hound someone for an answer. Do I want to know that they didn't like my hair? Or thought that I dressed weird? Or that I laugh a little too loud? Not so much. Believe me, it's not that I think that I am perfect...in fact, I am about as far from perfect as a person could possibly be. I've been told by numerous exes the multitude of ways that I could alter myself to be more pleasing to their liking (probably why they are now exes). I've always believed that the whole point of dating is to find the person whose idiosyncrasies are in sync with yours...not to find someone to mold into what fits for you.
I have a friend who completely dissected every minute from every date that she had with this one fellow (who subsequently disappeared). Maybe she shouldn't have talked about this...or that. Maybe she seemed too independent. Maybe she should have called him more...or less. Maybe, maybe, maybe...maybe he just wasn't really feeling it. Maybe it's like the book said "he's just not that into you".
In the end, I believe that some things should be just let go to the Universe. You put yourself out there...be true to who you are...choose the path of least regret...and if it's not to someone's liking...well then I guess they weren't meant to be a part of your life.
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